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Wanting - The Hidden Forces Behind Your Desires - Episode 8

In this mind-bending episode, Andrew and JD explore René Girard's revolutionary mimetic theory through Luke Burgis's accessible book "Wanting." Discover why your deepest desires might not actually be your own!

We dive into:

• Why we mimic the desires of our "models" (from celebrities to rivals)
• How mimetic rivalries escalate into violence and conflict
• The surprising connection between scapegoating and civilization
• Why René Girard became Christian after developing his theory
• Practical ways to escape mimetic desire and find authentic purpose

From Peter Thiel's investment philosophy to why hipsters all look alike while no one identifies as one, this episode will transform how you understand human motivation, marketing, social media, and even ancient religious practices.

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1.07 The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen Covey

In this episode of Books Brothers, JD and Andrew break down Stephen Covey's seminal work "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People." Published in over 50 languages and named the most influential business book of the 20th century, Covey's framework distills centuries of self-improvement literature into actionable habits for personal growth. The brothers discuss how Covey spent years studying success literature since 1776 to create principles for living your best life aligned with timeless values. From taking control of your life to building meaningful relationships, this episode unpacks how to move from dependence to independence to interdependence through Covey's transformative seven habits.

 

Chapter Markers

00:00:00 - Introduction to the book's influence and reach

00:02:00 - Covey's research process and the book's core message

00:04:20 - The Character Ethic vs. Personality Ethic

00:08:10 - Principle-Centered Paradigm and taking responsibility

00:10:57 - Habit 1: Be Proactive

00:13:25 - Viktor Frankl and choosing your response

00:17:15 - The mindset of reactive vs. proactive people

00:19:13 - Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind

00:21:08 - Leadership vs. Management

00:22:00 - Creating a personal mission statement

00:24:03 - Center of your life: principles vs. other centers

00:26:56 - Habit 3: Put First Things First

00:28:34 - The Four Quadrants of Time Management

00:31:00 - Stewardship vs. Go-for Delegation

00:33:54 - Trust Banks and relationship building

00:36:10 - Habit 4: Think Win-Win

00:38:25 - Problems with competition in society

00:41:51 - Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

00:43:35 - Empathic listening and its power

00:45:44 - Ethos, Pathos, Logos and communication

00:46:13 - Habit 6: Synergize

00:47:52 - Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

00:49:02 - The Eighth Habit and final thoughts

00:52:09 - Summary of all seven habits

 

References

Books:

"The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey (00:01:06)

"The 8th Habit" by Stephen Covey (00:49:06)

"The Speed of Trust" by Stephen M.R. Covey (00:50:18)

"Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl (00:13:44)

"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie (mentioned at 00:06:38)

 

People:

Viktor Frankl (00:13:44, "friend of the show")

Benjamin Franklin (00:02:30)

Dale Carnegie (00:02:30)

Tony Robbins (00:02:30)

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (00:18:32)

Warren Buffett (00:50:18)

Peter Thiel (00:38:56, reference to "Zero to One")

Jocko Willink (implied at 00:28:23 as "our guy Jocko, a friend of the program")

Jonathan Haidt (00:42:50, reference to elephant and rider metaphor)

 

Concepts:

Character Ethic vs. Personality Ethic (00:04:48)

Principle-centered paradigm (00:08:11)

Production vs. Production Capability (P/PC Balance) (00:10:25)

Stimulus and Response model (00:14:29)

Trust Banks (00:33:55)

Four Quadrants of Time Management (00:28:34)

Scarcity vs. Abundance Mentality (00:41:06)

Ethos, Pathos, Logos (00:45:07)

 

Other Podcast References:

"Righteous Mind" (00:51:40, reference to another Books Brothers episode)

"General Theory of Love" (00:44:26, reference to another Books Brothers episode)

1.06 A General Theory of Love

Join the Dennison Brothers as they dive into "A General Theory of Love," a fascinating scientific exploration of what makes us connect on a deeper level. What exactly is love from a neurological perspective? Three psychiatrists from UCSF propose that it's "limbic resonance" - the way our emotional brains synchronize with others.

In this episode, we break down how the limbic system (the emotional part of our brain) creates connections that literally help regulate our emotions and physical well-being. From how mothers shape their children's emotional patterns to why isolation is so damaging to humans, this book offers a scientific framework for understanding our deepest relationships.

Discover why humans are "open loops" that require others to function properly, how childhood experiences encode our emotional responses, and the scientific evidence showing that connection isn't just nice - it's necessary for survival. Whether you're building personal relationships or professional networks, understanding the biology behind human connection gives you powerful insights into yourself and others.

Shownotes:

Book Information

Title: A General Theory of Love

Authors: Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini, and Richard Lannon (all professors of psychiatry from UCSF School of Medicine) [00:03:13]

 

 

Studies & Researchers Mentioned

• Conrad Lorenz: Study on imprinting in ducklings [00:24:31]
• Frederick the Second: 13th century experiment on language development [00:25:47]
• Rene Spitz: Studies on orphaned children in the 1940s [00:26:04]
• Mary Ainsworth: Research on mother-baby attachments and parenting styles [00:26:45]
• Paul Ekman and Carol Izzard: Research confirming universal facial expressions [00:17:36]
• Paul Broca: Identified the "great limbic lobe" [00:11:23]
• Charles Darwin: "The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals" [00:16:36]

 

Other Books & Authors Referenced

• Robert Sapolsky's "Behave": Referenced when discussing the triune brain [00:09:37]
• Jonathan Haidt's "The Righteous Mind": Referenced for the elephant and rider metaphor [00:10:01]
• Judith Rich Harris's "The Nurture Assumption": Referenced in discussing genetic vs. environmental factors [00:28:27]
• Yuval Noah Harari's "Sapiens": Referenced multiple times [00:14:07, 00:29:18]
• Sam Harris: Mentioned regarding free will and parenting [00:27:59]
• Ralph Waldo Emerson: Quote about temperament [00:19:46]
• Blaise Pascal: Quote at the end [00:44:32]

Media & Pop Culture References

• Joe Rogan & Elon Musk podcast: Where the hosts first heard about "limbic resonance" [00:24:04]
• Into the Wild (Alexander Supertramp): "Happiness is only real when shared" [00:31:00]
• Haddaway's "What is Love": Referenced as the episode's theme song [00:01:48]

Notable Quotes

• "The mammalian nervous system cannot self-assemble" [00:33:40]
• "For a mute mammal, play is physical poetry" [00:13:36]
• "Freud's logic was a veritable Mobius strip of circularity and belongs to a priest. Scientific era" [00:05:09]

 

#BrainScience #EmotionalIntelligence #RelationshipScience #PsychologyBooks #PersonalDevelopment #BookReview #LimbicResonance #NeuroscienceOfLove #MensHealth #SelfImprovement #BookSummary #MindsetMastery #MentalModels #ProfessionalGrowth #BrotherBooks

1.05 Behave: the Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst - Robert Sapolsky

In this epic deep-dive episode, brothers JD and Andrew Dennison tackle Robert Sapolsky's masterwork "Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst." We explore how our brains, hormones, genes, and environment shape human behavior from seconds to millions of years before an action occurs. From the neuroscience of decision-making to the evolutionary roots of tribalism, they break down Sapolsky's fascinating insights into why we do what we do.

Key topics include:

 

How different brain regions like the amygdala, prefrontal cortex, and dopamine systems influence our choices

Why testosterone isn't just about aggression

The surprising truth about oxytocin (it's not all free love!)

What adolescent brain development reveals about human nature

How cultural evolution and biology intertwine to shape societies

 

00:07:42 Chapter 2: 1 second before: Neuroscience
00:44:46 Chapter 4 Hours to Days Before: Hormones
1:04:51 Chapter 5: Days to Months Before: Neuroplasticity
01:09:59 Chapter 6 Adolescence or Dude Where’s my Cortex
1:20:21 Chapter 7 Years Before Back to the Crib Back to the Womb
1:29:28 Chapter 8 Fertilized egg or how our genetic affect our behavior
1:38:21 Chapter 9 Centuries to Millennia : cultures
1:47:13 Chapter 11 Us Vs. Them
2:03:06 Chapter 12 Hierarchy, obedience and resistance
2:17:16 Chapter 13 Morality doing the right thing
2:17:22 Chapter 14: feeling someone’s pain as your own
2:23:57 Chapter 15: Metaphors we kill by
2:33:02 Chapter 16: Biology The criminal justice system and oh why not free will
2:45:17 Chapter 17: war and Peace

 

The brothers share their enthusiasm for Sapolsky's brilliant writing style and humor while navigating complex topics like free will, human nature, and the biology behind both our best and worst behaviors. This comprehensive look at "Behave" showcases why it's a defining book in understanding human behavior through multiple scientific lenses.

Note: This is episode 5 of the "Human Evolution” season, where JD and Andrew explore groundbreaking books about what makes us human, from evolutionary biology to neuroscience and beyond.

1.04 Superintelligence: Paths, Dangers Strategies - Nick Bostrom

Many smart people out there say AI is an existential risk. AI Armageddon is certainly is a top-5 concern of  enough people that we feel it warrants a deeper understanding. And in Superintelligence, Bostrom is the perfect robot-impersonating-author to teach us AI 101 while simultaneously capturing AI’s full scale and magnitude. He talked to everybody and covers the biggest questions: what are all the potential outcomes? How likely is AI? When might it happen? What’s the history of AI technology and are we excited about nothing? If an artificial intelligence does take over what would it do? High-probability take-over-the-world is on the early menu. 

Plus, what’s the world’s current #robotpopulation? Could #serversruntheworld? 

This book will make you think differently about the way your BRAIN and your SOCIETY operate. This Books Brothers summary will do ALL that and make you laugh.

1.03 The Selfish Gene - Richard Dawkins

Selfish Gene answers a deep and fundamental question: How does evolution work? We start our story in the Primordial Soup served hot at the Big Bang’s favorite diner, the single-cell-stew that brewed in Earth’s original oceans (after millions of years cooled the atmosphere obviously). The effect those little replicating cells, containing the world’s first DNA structures, have on our behavior today is 😳🤯🤔. 

Plus, Dawkins colorfully illustrates why #NatureIsMetal and what really goes on #WhenaManLovesaWoman 

This book will make you think differently about the way your BRAIN and your SOCIETY operate. This Books Brothers summary will do ALL that and make you laugh.

With Books Brothers podcasts, we do our best to share the author’s perspective. If you’ve read it before, you’ll know the book better. If you haven’t read it yet, you’ll learn what it contains and we hope you read it soon.

Andrew and JD

1.02 The Righteous Mind - Jonathan Haidt

The Righteous Mind answers a deep and fundamental question: why can’t we all just get along? Why can’t Democrats and Republicans understand each other better? Haidt answers these better than anyone (ever) by breaking down the social psychology and brain science of why our species is so apt to join groups, take sides and fight. The Righteous Mind covers 17 years of Haidt’s research into moral psychology and human behavior, and he uses it to explain our divided world today. 

Plus, Hadit drops some bombs on our next book, Selfish Gene. #EmotionsFirstReasoningSecond #10%bee #BelongingNotBelieving

This book will make you think differently about the way your BRAIN and your SOCIETY operate. This Books Brothers summary will do ALL that and make you laugh.

With Book Brothers we do our best to share the author’s perspective. If you’ve read it before, you’ll know the book better. If you haven’t read it yet, you'll love it so much you'll go out an buy it

Enjoy!

-Andrew and JD

1.01 Sapiens - Yuval Noah Harari

Sapiens is a 416-page story of humankind from 6M years ago to today. Harari wraps it all up: our psychology, technology, religion, economy, politics… Nobody puts things quite the way Yuval does - he’s got some weird/deep thoughts and spits some fire trash talk at basically everything. We guarantee this book will make you stop and think about who we are and where we come from. 

Plus it’s got plenty of #CavemanTalk and #YuvalSlamPoetry

This book will make you think differently about the way your BRAIN and your SOCIETY operate. This Books Brothers summary will do ALL that and make you laugh.

We do our best to share the author’s perspective. If you’ve read it before, you’ll know the book better. If you haven’t read it yet, you’ll love it so much you'll buy the book

Enjoy!

-Andrew and JD